I assume she wishes Dad would spend money to have a professional care network in place. Knowing the huge uncertainty he's facing -- such as living another twenty years -- i can see him looking at the question of how to make it all work with pretty dim hopes. I look at my retirement fund and realize while it looks nice, it needs to be boosted. A random US News & World Report article says a million dollars in a 401k will last twenty years at a burn rate of $40k/year. And random current rate for assisted living, say $7k a month is way more than that.
I sure hope i like chestnuts. (Because i can hope the two trees might be productive enough to be a substantial carbohydrate source in my retirement. They went in when i was 50, more or less, and 'at maturity (15-20 years) they can produce as much as 50-100 lbs/tree'.)
Dad better have called about the hospice benefit for Grandmámá yesterday before his second beer. It's been something we've needed to know, and i am now in the nag stage.
He's struggling with his grief, and i make room for it. It's interesting to watch his grief and his procrastination play together.
Meanwhile a major elephant stampede occurred midday, clearly picking up momentum from my family's swirl.
I decided to take four hours as vacation because i am pretty sure i didn't put in the work with all the personal phone calls and distraction.
I don't feel grounded and centered today. I look at what others have to contend with and i feel frustrated with my capacity. What is the one thing i can do today to address any of:
[ ] retirement savings - increase amount going to retirement fund
[ ] emotional capacity -
[ ] care for family -
Let's see if i can get that done.
Adding new tag as "mom and caa" is now less about that specific health condition for my mom, and broadening to the needs of getting old.