||[May. 17th, 2016|03:19 pm]
Today i'm supposed to remember ... "replay"... a happy day, but that's really not what i feel like doing ... (even though i still have writing up the trip to death valley to complete).
First, i want to dump some worries:
1) I've had my first homeowner worry dreams: something about the refrigerator. I don't know why: my subconscious is missing the real worries about the dishwasher (is it really going to stay fixed?) and the clothes washer (did the sellers come take it in the middle of the night after the sale, or will they demand it in a few months? or...). The fridge is huge and shiny and new. I will learn to clean its coils, i promise!
2) I have been distracted for months now. MONTHS. I worry i will never be able to concentrate again. That i will be too busy buying things for our new home or unpacking or just poking around on the internet and will never focus ever again.
3) I'm worried that i will get sucked into the computer -- which is how i live now -- and will neglect the house and yard.
Somewhere between 2 & 3 is joy.
4) How am i going to find the time to see family? At least, the point about having a yard is that yard work will actually be exercise.
5) I am going to melt into one blobby puddle in all the humidity.
6) What do i need a burn permit for burning? http://www.chathamnc.org/index.aspx?page=960 "It shall be unlawful for any person to start or cause to be started any fire or ignite any material in any woodland under the protection of the Department or within 500 feet of any such woodland during the hours starting at midnight and ending at 4:00 P.M. without first obtaining a permit from the Department." Hmm, i guess an email to my county forester is called for. Is my woodland under their protection? If so, can i get free advice about maintaining it?
7) I am worried my feet and ankles will never work pain free again. And that arthritis is settling into my right hand and knees just as i want to start becoming more physically active.
8) I'm worried that Christine's worrying about the cats will be a complete drain of emotional energy on this trip east. However we have the biggest litterbox ever, harnesses, sedatives, crates and carriers, a covered pickup truck bed....
9) I'm worried that we're going to run into trouble in hotels because we have three cats and the limits are generally two pets. Maybe the two orange cats will look like one big golden retriever.
With luck, recording my worries will mean i don't have to think about them any more.
Okay, let's breathe!
These are all normal worries. No need to blow them up into bigger problems. It's gonna be fine.
As far as the cats in the motels? There really are not motel pet police. They'd like to tell you that there are? But there aren't. Really. It's not going to be a problem.
And did I mention the breathing thing? Yeah. Do that.
I find myself at "work" not breathing -- yup, need to remember that!
I'm really hoping that if i have this list, when a worry crosses my mind i'll either say "Yup, on the list. Don't need to think about it," or, "Oh! I need to add that to the list."
The pet police got added like that. I recall a dither i was in about the carry on luggage police some years ago. Christine was so calm. And her worry list (Edward is going to be miserable being ripped from his territory) includes things i am not concerned about.
(So do you dream about appliances now?)
All normal worries, and when you are actually driving, or settling into the house, you will realize that it will be OK. The cats will adjust. Appliances can be fixed or replaced (you're supposed to clean refrigerator coils? what? my fridge is 16 years old and I don't think I have done this.)
I am a pretty neglectful homeowner and I am surviving and my house is still standing (although I do have dreams that it will cave in on me). Sometimes I've had to pay the idiot tax for things I didn't know needed maintenance, but it worked out. The house and yard will not need all that much maintenance. If yardwork is a strain on both of you, you can hire a service; it's not expensive to have them come once a month or so (I don't have a lawn, but I have them come and deal with the weeds and leaf blowing, well worth it.) You don't have to do everything yourselves, even if you ideally would want to. I have learned to call in the professionals when needed.
3) It me.
5) This is going to happen, sorry. Another reason to hire someone to do the nasty parts of the yardwork so you can focus on the gardening fun parts. The summer will end (and it hasn't started yet, it's rainy and cooler this week.)
6) What are you planning on burning? yard waste?
SEE YOU SOON :)
I've been watching the weather there, and it looks like we will arrive with summer next week.
Christine's photos show where cut down small trees are just abandoned in the undergrowth. Between those and the septic field that needs clearing, i'd thought we might have a fire or two. Depends partly on how well my sister's chipper works. I'm hoping i can clear the septic field myself (haha), and save the credit we got to do that to hire The Goat Squad to clear EVERYTHING ELSE. Probably after whacking down three trees i'll call someone to come do the clearing, and that someone will have a commercial scale chipper.
I did order native plant seeds yesterday: yay!
I'm following their blog (haphazardly) -- hadn't seen that workshop!