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[Apr. 3rd, 2016|08:26 am]
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Yesterday i went through craft boxes. Paper, paint, pastels. Bits of wood, and mirrors, and test tubes and things saved from this that and the other. A pump to make a water fountain. Some sort of home automation stuff from pre-internet of things days.

I have consolidated a good deal, but there was a bit of ache as i declared certain projects abandoned, picked out stitches, or tossed things in the trash. It's not all quite ready to move, and i still have things to list on freecycle, but i am happy with my success in the purge. I wasn't ruthless: i'm happy to have kept things that i think will be fun to use with the kids. I am lighter by a bit. One reality is that these days bits for projects are easy to find on eBay or such: hoarding treasures isn't quite as necessary.

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One of the Meeting kerfluffles, based on my being sharp with a newcomer when she interrupted worship during meeting for business (and her not understanding what was going on), may finally be at an end. That person had, last week, posted a notice that newcomers aren't actually welcome to Meeting for Business. This has caused quite a stir, and retriggered for me the guilt i feel at having not been more gentle but has also made me feel a bit bitter. I apologized sincerely, but this person seems to be carrying misunderstandings. She's finally posted to the list again, and her misunderstandings are clearly pronounced (we were not going to vote, and certainly not on whether to hear from her). I hope our worship and ministry committee will get its act together and post a statement about expected behaviors at meeting for business.

Not holding my breath for that, though.

I will be recording clerk today, so i need to clear my mind of this frustration and focus on the business at hand.


[User Picture]From: songquake
2016-04-04 01:31 am (UTC)
Wouldn't W&M have already taken up explaining things to this newcomer and walking with her as she explores the Meeting's culture? I mean, a notice about expected behaviors is good (and good for addressing the concerns arising rather than addressing a person), but there seem to also be some pastoral care needs going on.

Also pastoral care for you. I think Meetings sometimes forget that clerks and committee members need folks to walk with them as well.

(I've spent about 16 hours in Quakerland this weekend --spring sessions for NYYM yesterday and both MfW and MfWCB today, so I'm feeling strongly the sense of us needing to hold one another up as we conduct the busines of our bodies large and small.)
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[User Picture]From: elainegrey
2016-04-04 02:25 am (UTC)
This person seems to be holding the community at a distance: she's not making it easy to provide such care. We hadn't seen her for ages: i don't know what provoked her into posting her "be advised not welcome" message to the list. (Our W&M committee is currently separate from the committee that provides pastoral care; they reached out & the clerk reached out.)

I asked for care from two Friends who provided support: if comments today were any evidence, folks are more focused on letting me know how much i will be missed.

I'm glad i skipped the W&M meeting today: our meeting clerk apparently "got into it" with the W&M clerk who had not read the minute that was going to be discussed at the called meeting for business -- but was criticizing it. The W&M clerk called the night before and, i'd realized she hadn't read it then, and let her know that the minute draft had evolved and she should really look at it (as the concern she raised with me was addressed).

It seems part of holding each other up could include reading the materials provided in advance!

I acted as recording clerk today, using the approve-as-we-go method. I was pleased with how it went, and others seem to be pleased too. We really needed the slowing down that taking the time to reflect back in that way provides.

16 hours is a good long Quakerland weekend!
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